Wow, Tom, where to start with that one...
First we were not talking about a press conference where he was blaming the kids as you suggest. The quote was from a personal conversation that sigmanorm had and I have had the same experience as well and I get the same thing from others close to the team. It is almost like there is a memo going around telling people that they should just say it is a bunch of kids that don't listen. That is blaming the players and there is no other way to spin it.
Those coaches you quoted repeatedly say "we" which includes the person speaking. They do single out individuals in some of them, which negates the we,
Those are for the most part, very successful coaches, describing a single loss. Hewitt is describing a complete meltdown of a season and when states that 18 year old kids don't listen do what you tell them. Well, if it were an occasional game, that is one thing, but to say that is the problem with the whole season, then it his fault for not being able to reach them over the entire season. That is the very definition of the job of coaching.
I'll give him one thing. He is a master of snow jobbing the guys and even the fans and others. He repeatedly blames them for not doing what he tells them, and they seem to be 100% loyal to him. If only he could figure out how to coach them at the same level, then we would not be having this conversation. We would be worried about what our seed in the tournament was going to be.
Very few coaches that have teams that have bottomed out save their jobs by blaming the kids for being 18 years old because that can't be fixed. They might, however, prove they can fix the problem if they looked at themselves, figured out what they could do better and pointed that out. Might not work, but the former approach never works for long.
Also, Tom Izzo and Bo Ryan must be twins since they used the exact same words...