To address your points in order:
1) I smell you, but I'm not stepping in. I agree that they shouldn't blow smoke, in a perfect world, but I also think that every coach's goal is championships, and they ought to say so. Whether or not that's a reasonable expectation or not, though is a different story. That said, your point about not asking for more is ENTIRELY reasonable. It's foolish not to. So, your point is sound, I don't dispute it, I just think we have to acknowledge that there's a little bit of salemanship to try and pump up excitement, and it should be taken with a grain of salt. If I say "my goal is to be the strongest man in the world", I'm not sure it's fair to say I'm failing if I don't reach that. So, agreed, but with caveats.
2) We can agree to disagree. For a mid major program, NCAA tournament appearances are as much a measure of variance as much as of level of performance. Some people value higher highs, some people do not. I think what you value says as much about you as it does about him. As I've said, I'm willing to write off the first season, and I accept that others may not. With that, you have a bunch of Dead Average seasons, with one below average season, and one above average season. It's ENTIRELY fair that his below avearage season was further from the middle than his above average season was. Like, valid. That's just facts. His conference record, EVEN WITH the first season redacted is slightly below 500. (and, honestly, conference record is what I judge by, as it's apples to apples). If we win this week, he'll have had 2 slightly above average seasons and one significantly below average season (again, ignoring year one). To ME, that comes out to slam average. Your mileage may vary.
3) It's a reasonable argument, but it requires the argument to be "he's the shittiest coach in the A10 who isn't among the shittiest coaches in the A10", which I'd be willing to listen to. But it's a different argument than the one people are making.
So, I'm not even necessarily saying I disagree with you. Maybe I agree, but I think it's pretty close, and people here want to act like it's not. I just get sick of the dishonest arguments (which you are clearly not doing). Maybe I'm just a crotchety old man, but I hear the hyperbole, and all I can think is that people sound like a bunch of whiny a** teenage girls who have never actually encountered any actual resistance, and don't know what constitutes what "reasonable expectations" are. (again, maybe I'm the dick. Wouldn't be the first time, won't be the last.)
It's the just the whole "he said he wanted to win titles, and if doesn't he's failing".......just doesn't draw a ton of water, to me.